Wishing Well Wording
One of the most common questions I get asked is, “how should I word my wishing well card – I don’t want to offend anyone!”
Don’t feel guilty babe, I’ll explain why wishing wells have quickly become a standard part of each wedding!
Over the last 50 years, weddings have changed dramatically. The go used to be you got married and then moved in together – so as a new couple you basically needed everything. Linen, dishes, a toaster – the lot. Couples were typically a lot younger as well – check out this chart from the Australian Bureau of Statistics.
Compared to 1975, there is close to a decade change in the age people married – that is a huge shift and with it has come, the wishing well wedding.
Wishing wells are amazing for modern couples, mainly because these brides and grooms to be have already set up their nest. A contribution towards a honeymoon or the ever growing % needed to buy a house, can be a really useful gift for couples tying the knot. Sometimes it can just help cover the meal at the wedding (with the average Aussie wedding coming in at a cool $48,624 to $51,245).
Wishing wells are also amazing as they can take the pressure off your guests having to find you something you don’t have, and as they are traditionally anonymous so no one feels judged if they can’t afford a $400 set of steak knives. Less stress, more time for busting a move on the dancefloor!
But how can you ask your guests in a way which won’t offend Grandma? We have compiled a list of some awesome and polite ways to ask below!
Finally, don’t stress – 90% of invites we do have a wishing well, it is so common and its understandable why! Most of your guests know their presence is present enough and won’t bat an eye. And as you go if you find a guest or two needs an explanation, that is totally ok! Just gently explain that there is no pressure and that it’s a common theme for modern weddings.
Wedding gifts hold a special place in everyone’s heart, there is a lot of joy in giving, and all guests want to gift something useful.
Some Wishing Well Ideas
Your presence is present enough
Your presence at our wedding is present enough, however we have been asked and should you wish to spoil us with a gift, a gift of currency towards our honeymoon would be gratefully accepted.
A family affair
Our two families have come together as one.
We really hope you can join in the fun.
A wishing well we thought would be great,
but only if you wish to participate.
A gift of money is placed in the well,
then make a special wish, but do not tell!
Please do not be offended by our request,
as our day is complete having you as a guest.
Our Gift Registry
Please be aware that gifts are not necessary.
Your presence is all that is required.
However, for your convenience
we have prepared a gift registry.
Our Wishing Well
If finding a gift is hard to do,
Perhaps our wishing well is for you.
A gift of money is placed in the well.
Then make a wish… but do not tell.
If, however, a gift you’d prefer to find.
Be assured we will not mind.
Soon you will hear our wedding bell,
As friends and family wish us well.
Our household thoughts are not brand new,
We have twice the things we need for two.
Since we have our share of dishes and bedding,
We’re having instead a wishing well wedding.
But more important, we ask of you,
Your prayers of love and blessings, too!
We two love birds have it all… Family, Friends and Love galore.
If a gift you intend to help our nest, and need some help may we suggest a contribution to our bird cage will help us along to our next life stage!
Most important is your presence this day and night as our wedding without you just won’t be right.
A gift of currency is our request.
We don’t want to offend, but we have it all,
All household goods and so much more.
To save you shopping, sit back and rest,
A gift of currency is our request.
Don’t go overboard or rob a bank,
Any little thing will make us smile with thanks!
Now that we have saved you all the fuss,
It would be appreciated if you would
Come and celebrate with us!
Thank you so much for sharing in our special day, please no physical gifts. We have been dreaming of a honeymoon overseas and will have a wishing well available at the wedding for those who wish to help us on our way with a small gift of currency.
Dreaming of a holiday
Now we are to be Mr & Mrs
We don’t need a wedding list of dishes.
A holiday is what we need, so your help
with this would be a great gift indeed.
Because at first we lived in sin,
we’ve got the sheets and a rubbish bin.
A gift from you would be swell but
we’d prefer a donation to our Wishing Well.
We have what we need
More than just kisses,
so far we’ve shared,
our home has been made,
with love and care.
Most things we need,
we’ve already got,
And in our home,
we can’t fit a lot!
A wishing well,
we thought would be great,
But only if,
you wish to participate,
A gift of money,
is deposited into a well,
Then make a wish…
But shhh don’t tell!
To save you looking,
shopping and buying,
Here is an idea
we hope you’ll like trying!
Come to our wedding
to wish us both well,
And make some use
of our little wishing well.
Just put some money into a card,
Now make a wish….
See, that wasn’t hard!
Now that we have saved you all of the fuss,
We hope that you will come
And celebrate with us!